Should You Shop For Your Engagement Ring as a Couple?

Are you getting engaged soon (or hoping to)? If so, you might be wondering if shopping for an engagement ring as a couple is the best way to go. This once “faux pas” idea has become common practice with today’s couples. 

Here are some of the pros and cons of starting the ring search together. 

The #1 Benefit of Shopping Together 

The biggest benefit of shopping for a ring together is that you can both get ideas about your perfect ring looks like. 

As a future bride, you probably have a vision of how you want your ring to look. But you won’t know for sure that it’s what you really want until you have it on your finger. Pictures of engagement rings simply don’t do them justice. 

Plus, rings look different when you try them on. You shouldn’t assume that you know what you want until you tried on some different options. 

Shopping for your engagement ring as a couple allows you to know what really you want, and it will enable you to make sure that your future fiancé knows too!

Another Benefit of Shopping Together

Many couples also find that shopping for an engagement ring together is a special and memorable experience that becomes part of their love story. Similar to a wedding dress, you’ll always remember the first time you tried a ring on and how it felt when you found “the one.” 

Some guys choose to surprise their girlfriends with a trip to the jewelry store to try on rings. This gesture is often this first indication that a proposal is on the horizon, and is meaningful and romantic all on its own.

But What About the Suprise Element?

Guys, we know that many of you love the idea of a surprise proposal. Just remember, you can still pull off a surprise proposal even after shopping together for the ring. 

Shopping together might let her know that a proposal is coming eventually, but she won’t know when or how it’s going to happen -- and that’s what’s most important, right? 

The Downside of Shopping Together

The downside of shopping for an engagement ring together (to some couples) is that you will lose some of the surprise element. If either of you dreams about having an “out-of-the-blue” proposal, engagement ring shopping together probably isn’t for you. 

No matter how you look at it, shopping for an engagement ring together means that a future proposal is expected. 

Why Some Guys Prefer to Go It Alone

Some guys see finding “the ring” as a mission to show off how well he knows his future bride. They love the idea of finding the perfect ring on their own, and some of them will even go as far as custom-making a ring. 

If this is your idea of how an engagement ring should be purchased -- great! That’s exactly how you should do it. Just make sure you know her style and preferences, and we can help you with the rest.

Engagement Ring Shopping as a Couple: Yay or Nay?

Here’s a quick recap of what we’ve gone over so far:

• If you are a future bride and want nothing to do with the ring selection, don’t shop together. 
• If you are purchasing the ring and want it to be a complete surprise, don’t shop together.
• If you want to both want to get ideas before the ring is purchased, shop together.
• If you want to turn engagement shopping into a memorable experience as a couple, shop together.
• If you both agree that the proposal is the most important surprise, why not shop together?

The fact is, no one can tell you whether or not you should shop together for the ring. That decision is personal and is going to differ from couple to couple. You have to determine what’s most important to both of you and go from there. 

According to TheKnot.com, at least 1 in 3 couples shops for the ring together. Here at Koser Jewelers, we see couples shop together more often than not. Many even make the final purchase of the ring together. 

Shopping (and purchasing) an engagement ring as a couple is totally acceptable, but in the end, you have to decide what’s best!

Start and Finish Your Search at Koser Jewelers

Whether you’re planning to shop together or go it alone, you can find the perfect ring at Koser Jewelers! Our jewelry experts will guide you through every step of the process while making it fun and straightforward. We would love to play a part in your love story!

We look forward to seeing you soon!